(written by heatherjrock in this thread Asian Guys White Girls )

I agree with that whole fetish thing. Saying that Asians are a fetish is saying that it is weird and unacceptable to typically like Asians and that it is not normal to like Asians. Hell, if there are guys out there that prefer blondes or big boobs, why the fuck can't I like an Asian guy?

I don't necessarily think it is just a preference either. I mean, maybe for most people on here it's a preference. Maybe they just prefer Asian guys or whatever. For me, I'm starting to wonder if it's an orientation...I cannot see myself with a non-Asian (ESPECIALLY not a white guy). To me, dating a non-Asian is bizarre and inappropriate. I've dated a white guy before (sadly) and there's just something off about them. I'm sure at the end of the day it's all me, but I just can't do it.

In jr. high school, I rarely had crushes, and if I did, they were always Asians or at least half. For a long time I wondered if I was a lesbian or something, but I didn't have crushes on girls either so I thought something as really wrong. I learned about something called asexuality, which means that, in this case, you are not attracted to anything, male, female, whatever, and I thought maybe that was me. For about a year I struggled with that and told myself to like these white boys, even though I knew I really didn't. In the end, I figured I would just be alone and I kind of became cool with that, even though I knew it wouldn't go over very well with family in friends, but how do you explain that you just find other people to be unattractive? They wouldn't get it, so why even bother trying?

Holy Fuck, can I tell you how happy I was when I found this plethora of Asian guys on myspace? All of a sudden, guys weren't just cute, they were smoking HOT. I started liking Jrock and other kinds of music and I really felt like I found something that worked for me. Yes, I get a lot of crap for it, but I'm happy, so who cares?

If people ask me about this, I tell the truth. I hope they look at me and think "but you're not an anime nerd, you're not a weeabo, and you're actually mildly attractive, wtf is going on?" I want them to see that this isn't a fetish and that it isn't a phase. This is something that is becoming increasingly prevalent, and I hope more people see Asians as options instead of fetishes. I mean, fuck, we're all people.