(written by Rokim1020)
(originally from this thread Asian Guys White Girls)
I just want to address something that has always bothered me~ and see if anyone else has had the same problem.
As soon as I became interested in anything remotely romantic, I knew I liked Asian guys. In high school I was stuck in a pretty white bred suburb, and I thought I was a lesbian~ all the jocks hit on me and I got in to a lot of fistfights that way. I thought they were gross and contemplated a life without men at all. The ONE Asian guy in the whole school, poor Toshi, Japanese exchange student... I totally scared the crap out of him. I am pretty pushy with men~ hey don't judge~ the ones I like NEVER approach me. But that's not my complaint, shy guys are cool, and WAY less cocky. Once I got out of that monoculture paradise I moved across town to a place that has the largest population of Korean & Chinese in the city (did then at least). Anyway I figured it out real quick, ASIAN GUYS ARE HOTTT!
Yeah and I haven't looked back since. I eventually moved to Los Angeles and lived in Ktown for about 6years. Every time I would meet people outside my circle they would say "Oh you have an Asian fetish huh?" ... Dude.... really? A fetish, like how some people feel about shoes (or even feet)? I am simply attracted to a certain type of person and certain physical features, does that make me a fetishist? I have my physical reasons obviously but there is a certain personality I go for too that seems to be more prevalent among Asian guys (luckily for me, cos if Asian dudes were assholes I'd be screwed).
I think most of the people who said this to me were white guys that got shot down~ but I like to broadcast that hey you know what there are women who dig Asian guys *exclusively* because I think we can all agree here that the media/society/culture etc. does a pretty big disservice to Asian men. Not only are us girls out there, but some of us are pretty friggin' hot (I've seen your photos ladies!).
So, now I am a married woman and I wonder if I would still be accused of having a fetish? Yeah I know a lot of crap about Korean this n' that but only because I live in a Korean household! I think in any successful interracial relationship both parties need to be open to their partner's culture~ I just happen to be really good at doing that :) Plus I have a kid and I want him to connect to his Asian side as well, since he is growing up here in the U.S. I still don't see myself as having a fetish. Maybe it's just the negative connotation that term carries that really bothers me. And hey, maybe some of you girls on here actually embrace the term. I am really open to hear comments on this, since I have never even spoke about this to anyone but a partner before.
Oh, and for anyone living in the "boonies" where there are AM/XF couples, go to a big city~ while you are young~ you will have the time of your life TRUST ME. My marriage is better now because I got to experience that.